Thanks for your patience, dear readers. I’ve been very busy the past few days. Lots of things in my life are changing, as I had been expecting for some time. They won’t be meaningful to anyone but me, but they have been time-consuming. Meanwhile a couple of discussions came up.
Not sure about that last paragraph entirely. Thinking about Solomon, in proverbs we know we have to let God guide us and not lean on our own understanding, next we know beauty means little if she’s brawling or without discretion or worse. However we are supposed to be ravished with her love and in the Song of Solomon physical beauty is there as well. Also in proverbs character obviously is more important than beauty. And topping it all off wisdom is the thing needed and you kind of get that only from God. Marriage isn’t just a mental Union it’s a physical one and in my experience the same way beauty doesn’t mean good character, homeliness doesn’t either. Homely girls can actually be quite vicious, I suspect driven by the insecurity of being unattractive.
So while trusting God for wisdom first, I would not be inclined to counsel any man to marry a woman if being “ravished” by her love feels physically impossible. Most men aren’t looking for the top 1% of beauty anyway, but if the idea of making love to this particular woman repulses you, that’s probably telling you something about whether you should commit to doing that very thing for the rest of your or her natural life. On a personal note though I have noticed through I believe the grace of God, that I am capable of losing attraction to a beautiful woman over character defects like combativeness. But I obviously can’t tell you how God is guiding every individual.
Not sure about that last paragraph entirely. Thinking about Solomon, in proverbs we know we have to let God guide us and not lean on our own understanding, next we know beauty means little if she’s brawling or without discretion or worse. However we are supposed to be ravished with her love and in the Song of Solomon physical beauty is there as well. Also in proverbs character obviously is more important than beauty. And topping it all off wisdom is the thing needed and you kind of get that only from God. Marriage isn’t just a mental Union it’s a physical one and in my experience the same way beauty doesn’t mean good character, homeliness doesn’t either. Homely girls can actually be quite vicious, I suspect driven by the insecurity of being unattractive.
So while trusting God for wisdom first, I would not be inclined to counsel any man to marry a woman if being “ravished” by her love feels physically impossible. Most men aren’t looking for the top 1% of beauty anyway, but if the idea of making love to this particular woman repulses you, that’s probably telling you something about whether you should commit to doing that very thing for the rest of your or her natural life. On a personal note though I have noticed through I believe the grace of God, that I am capable of losing attraction to a beautiful woman over character defects like combativeness. But I obviously can’t tell you how God is guiding every individual.